awareness: observing yourself and recognizing your feelings; ng a vocabulary for feelings; knowing the relationship between thoughts, feelings, and reactions • Personal decision-making: examining your actions and knowing their consequences; knowing if thought or feeling is ruling a decision; applying
these insights to issues such as sex and drugs
• Managing feelings monitoring “self-talk” to catch negative messages such
as internal put-downs; realizing what is behind a feeling (e.g., the hurt that un derlies anger), finding ways to handle fears and anxieties, anger, and sadness • Handling stress learning the value of exercise, guided imagery, relax ation methods • Empathy: understanding others’ feelings and concerns and taking their perspective; appreciating the differences in how people feel about things • Communications: talking about feelings effectively: becoming a good
listener and question-asker; distinguishing between what someone does or
says and your own reactions or judgments about it; sending “I” messages
instead of blame
• Self-disclosure: valuing openness and building trust in a relationship; knowing when it’s safe to risk talking about your private feelings • Insight: identifying patterns in your emotional life and reactions; recog- nizing similar patterns in others
Self-acceptance: feeling pride and seeing yourself in a positive light; recognizing your strengths and weaknesses; being able to laugh at yourself • Personal responsibility: taking responsibility; recognizing the conse quences of your decisions and actions, accepting your feelings and moods, following through on commitments (e g., to studying.